So my blog friend at Baby wanted! An IVF journey tagged me in a get to know you quiz and I thought it would be fun to have something to say that wasn’t about the baby. Yay!
1. When did you start blogging?
I started on the last day of 2006 on my old blog, which was called the same as this one, but hosted on blogspot. I’ve blogged pretty consistently since then, except for a 1 year break after my mum passed away and I was just trying to make it through each day. When I came back to blogging I created a new blog over here on WordPress because I needed a fresh start.
2. Why did you start your blog?
I’d been reading lots of weight loss blogs and drawing a lot of inspiration so I thought it might help me as well. I also wanted a blog so that I could comment on my favourite blogs and join the blogger community.
I’m not sure why I keep blogging, I sure as hell barely comment on any blogs anymore and almost every blogger I used to read has stopped. I guess I must get something from it because I keep doing it, even though I do feel silly sometimes. Plus there is nothing better than getting a comment or email from someone who can relate to what you are going through, or has some good advice or offers some much needed support.
3. What do you do for your day job?
Currently I am a stay at home mum, but normally I am a Digital Marketer for a large home building company. I do things like the website, social media, online ads and video content. It’s a good job, but its hard to enjoy it because it tends to be too crazy busy. I’m hoping to change my approach to work when I go back after my maternity leave. Famous last words…
4. Where are you located (city, country)?
I live in an inner city suburb of Melbourne in Australia. I keep wanting to mix things up and move to another state, but Melbourne is just such a bloody awesome place to live that it is hard to leave.
5. What has been your biggest regret in your life?
I really don’t have many regrets, I see my mistakes as great lessons and they have shaped me as a person. If I was going to say anything, I’m going to be heavy and say that I regret the way I handled caring for my mum as she died. I think I could have been more assertive with some healthcare professionals and I also (in hindsight) could have managed her comfort and pain better. I looked after her at home on my own and I didn’t know what I was doing and I wish I could have made her more comfortable in her final days. It haunts me a lot thinking about what she went through.
6. What has been your greatest achievement?
I don’t have a single great achievement. I would say that my biggest achievement was just finally creating a life that I love. In my early twenties I was in a very bad place (if you read my old blog you would see that). I hated myself, I was scared of life and I was about ready to just crawl up in bed and eat myself to death. Instead I went back to uni and got another degree, got myself a good job, lost 50 kilos, got my drivers licence, started travelling and slowly built up my confidence. It’s not a perfect life, but it’s a good life I think.
7. What advice would you give to your 18 year old self?
Well I probably wouldn’t have listened, but definitely to have confidence and respect for yourself. That you are worthy and awesome and don’t need to change for anyone else.
Also to travel more, date more and get your damn drivers licence.
Oh and, steer clear of the credit cards for god’s sake!
8. Do you have a special or unusual skill that perhaps people don’t know about ?
Nope, I really don’t.
9. Where is your favorite city to visit?
Well this is an impossible question to answer because I love so many cities (and there are so many great cities that I have yet to visit). I’ll answer with the city I am yearning to visit today, which is Chicago. I listened to a podcast of an interview with Laurie Metcalf yesterday and she spoke a lot about the Steppenwolf Theatre Company in Chicago and it brought back so many wonderful memories of visiting Chicago and seeing a play at the Steppenwolf in 2015. We had such an amazing time in Chicago and it’s definitely a city that I could happily live in.
10. How do you motivate yourself?
Oh this is a horrible answer, but I recognise that I use self-shame and worrying what people think about me to motivate me a lot. I use it to stop me shoving food in my mouth, to get me exercising, it motivates how I behave at work and socially and I can even see how I am starting to use it as a mum. This needs to change.
11. What do you hope for most in 2018?
I am really focussing on choosing happiness in 2018. I am trying to build a life that centres on being happy. It sounds simple, but I have found that I often seem to choose worry and sadness over happiness. I know that I will still live with worry and sadness in my life, but I am going to let the happiness shine through more.