Age: I have a one year old. Well he turned one on the 23rd July and this update is a bit late.
And just like that I have a toddler on my hands. He isn’t officially walking yet, but he walks everyone around the house holding onto furniture. Where there is no furniture to hold, he’ll push a dining chair or his highchair around instead. He barely even holds on anymore, but he just doesn’t seem to know he can let go or maybe doesn’t have the confidence. I have actually done nothing to help him either. I just don’t want to push him into walking and I am happy for him to keep practicing and build his strength. There is absolutely no hurry from my perspective.
The biggest change for me is his mental development. He understands so much now. I ask him where his nose, head or tummy is and he points to them. We drive over a speed bump and he says “bump”. I ask for a kiss and I get one (if he’s feeling generous!). I ask where the duck/puppy/bird is and he points them out. I ask him to shake his bottle and he does it (quite poorly I might add). I tell him to brush his hair or teeth and he does it (once again, quite poorly!). I get a cup of tea and he looks at me and says “ahhh” (because apparently I do this after I drink). I say “yes” and he shakes his head “no” to be cheeky. I put the Wiggles on and he starts dancing. He claps after every song we sing it book we read. The changes in him this month just blow my mind.
I’ve also found him to be much more hands on over the past month. He seems to need more attention and engagement from me. He is just finishing another development leap today so I am hoping he gets less clingy soon because he has never been like this before. I find it hard to cook dinner or do any tasks around the house because he needs so much interaction from me and he’s also getting into mischief. I have to watch that he isn’t knocking plants off shelves, ripping my magazines, pulling every tissue out of every box, pulling shoelaces out of shoes or taking rubbish out of the bin. Nothing is safe.
Favourite song: Galumph went the little green frog
Favourite book: Where is the Green Sheep?
Favourite toy: Ring stacker and this annoying ball that rolls around and makes music
Favourite food: Mandarins and apples (but he doesn’t like fruit in slices, he wants to eat them whole. He won’t even let me take the peel off the mandarin, he has to do it himself. It’s messy.)
Favourite animal: Puppies and birds
Favourite game: Ballroom dancing with mum around the lounge room and throwing the ball with dad
Feeding: No change really, 3 bottles a day of 150 ml and 3 meals and snacks when needed. I wouldn’t say he is a massive eater, but he does alright. Apparently from 12 months old I am supposed to cut out bottles, but I have no idea how I am going to do this because he really doesn’t eat enough. I’ll talk to the maternal health nurse when I see her. I guess if I stop giving him bottles he’ll get hungry!
Sleeping routine: Oh god, where do I start? What a shit show this month has been for sleep. He started refusing his afternoon sleep, which would mean he would have a morning sleep from 9.30 am – 11.00 am and then nothing until 6.30 pm bedtime. This is not enough for a bub his age. So in my misguided wisdom, I decided to try and shift his morning sleep to lunchtime and transition him to just one sleep a day. This was a mistake because he was too tired to last until lunch time for his nap. So I didn’t know what to do and I called a radio helpline where you can talk to a mothercraft nurse (kinderling radio) and get advice. She told me to definitely keep him on two naps and to put him down at the normal time in the morning and then wake him after 20-30 minutes and then he should be tired enough for a proper afternoon nap. I was horrified at first, imagine waking a baby from a long nap, but I did have some good success from it.
Unfortunately, life got really busy with playgroups, preparing for his birthday party and family visiting for over a week and I wasn’t always able to be home for his naps and the routine went out the window. He is a baby who needs routine (so do I), so he didn’t cope well and now I have gone back to square one and trying to get his routine back. I think it’ll work, I just need to make sure I’m home for him to nap when he needs to because he refuses to nap in the pram or car.
I’m still having trouble with getting him to sleep at night, I don’t know if it’s separation anxiety or if I have just created bad habits, but he cries when I leave his room and I often have to lie on the floor next to his cot until he falls asleep. Once he is asleep, he normally sleeps through the night, but it’s just getting him to sleep that is the problem. I honestly don’t know why he does this because this only started when he was about 10 months old. At the time, he was teething badly, in a development leap and we’d just moved house, so I just gave him extra cuddles, but now it looks like I’ve created bad habits.
Swim lessons: I finally started Augie on swim lessons. I signed him up 6 months ago but they always fell on his nap times so I ended up cancelling because sleep is paramount in this household! Now that we live by the beach I figured I better get him started before summer. The first lesson he hated and cried the entire time. The class only had 3 other babies and none of them showed up, so I think he was overwhelmed by the one-on-one attention from the instructor because he isn’t great with new people. The next lesson he was much better and by his third lesson he was loving it. The instructor thought he was scared of the water, but he loves the water, he was just overwhelmed by the new people!
Car seat: We turned his car seat around to be forward facing now too. I think legally you need to have them rear facing until 6 months and then you can turn them when they meet the height requirements on your seat. He just meets the height requirement so we turned him and he loves it. He’s so much happier and chilled out in the car now he can sit up and look around. I love it because it gives me way more room when I sit in the front passenger seat!
Achievements: We have a talker on our hands! It looks like Augie is going to be chatty because he likes to talk and randomly repeats a lot of words or sounds I make. Words he says consistently now are: mum, dad, puppy, bird, ta, ba ba (sheep), bump, pop, nigh nigh, yuck, apple.
Things we have learned: Since the day he was born I have tried to soak in every delicious second with him. Even on the tough days when I’ve just about had enough, I would tell myself that in 10, 20 or 30 years I would give everything to go back to these days with my baby. The problem is, I still worry that I haven’t soaked in enough. It was the same when my mum was sick and I would try to be in the moment with her and appreciate every minute together. Time still moves so quickly and suddenly the moment is over. My baby is a one year old.
There were many days where I also wished time away. I would think it would be so much easier when he was a bit older. Babies are bloody hard work (duh). I am also always looking forward to the next stage. I can’t wait until he can cuddle me back, talk to me and tell me funny stories, do arts and craft together and he can read me books (and maybe pour me a wine!). But, I also know this first year of his life was magical in its own right. He will grow up and won’t let me hold him in my arms, kiss his face and sing him songs. I really don’t like to be sappy, but it’s been the best 12 months of my life with that little boy. He is a pure delight.
Appearance: He grew another two teeth and now has 8 teeth, the front bottom and top four and we have the beginnings of molars coming through and they look like they are going to be brutal.
He’s got quite a lot of blonde hair now and blue/grey eyes like his dad. He has my wonky nose and chubby cheeks, AJ’s eye colour, my eye shape, AJ’s chin and AJ’s facial expressions. A perfect mix of us both.
He was weighed and measured at the nurse today and he’s 10.88 kilos and 75.5 cm. Apparently his weight is pretty high because he’s on formula so we really need to cut that back now and just give him food. Eeeek.
Mummy update: I’m still adjusting to living in a new town and being a full time mum again. I’ve been looking for work and even got offered a part time job, but it wasn’t suitable (pay was shit and the job was shit to be honest). It’s been very hard to find a job that is in my field, part time hours and pays decently, otherwise it is just not worth putting Augie in childcare.
My life feels very one dimension right now, it’s just baby, baby, baby. With no friends and family around, I do feel a bit isolated. Augie probably feels the same way! I tried to join a lot of baby/mum groups, but unfortunately almost all of them fall during his nap times. I went to some, but it contributed to me fucking up his day naps, so I decided I just need to be home at nap times and let him sleep. When he transitions onto one nap a day it will be so much easier to get out more and that will probably happen in the next 2-3 months, so its not far away.
I also went to a local mum’s wine group night out. I was so nervous to go on my own, but also desperate for a night out, so I forced myself into it. No one talked to me for the first 5 minutes when I got there and I almost left, but luckily a nice lady struck up a conversation with me and I ended up having a good time. They run events monthly and I’m still thinking about if I will go to the next one. The age group was a little on the younger side and there was definitely some cliques. Making friends is so hard. I’m exhausted!
Now, my baby only turns one once, so surely I can spam you with a stupid amount of photos, right? I’m doing this on my phone, so apologies for the crappy layout. 💗