Back to the Grind

After quite a bit of back and forth, I finally had it confirmed today that I am going back to work 2 days a week in a couple of weeks. I wasn’t due to go back until mid-June, but I decided to go back earlier because I thought it would be a good balance for my family. I also thought it would be nice to wear fancy (clean!) clothes, put on make up and speak to people who can converse back to me. I won’t know myself!

Our family has had a bit of a shake up this year already with AJ quitting his job to run a business from home. He has a lot of flexibility with his hours and so it made sense that I would go back to work a couple of days to supplement our income and give us a bit of breathing space financially. It’s tough being on one salary!

More than the financial reasons though, I thought it would be good for all of us to share care of Augie. I am currently the primary carer of Augie, and with no family around to help, it’s just me and him pretty much all of the time. I worry that this isn’t good for me or Augie and we’ll both end up getting too attached to each other. I think that it’s important to be able to leave him and not worry that he’ll be anxious without me. Obviously I want him to need his mama, but I want him to be a confident little boy who enjoys spending time with other people (as long as I am his favourite of course).

I do feel lucky that I can do this and not have to worry about childcare. I don’t think I would be quite ready to put Augie in childcare just yet (I am too much of a clinger for that, but my niece was in childcare from this age and absolutely thrived). I have complete confidence in AJ to look after Augie all day. Granted, he has never really done it… but that’s because I hover constantly and take over. Which is another major reason I thought it would be good for me to go back to work and give AJ and Augie the opportunity to spend more one-on-one time together. AJ isn’t quite as strict with routine as I am… but I’m sure they’ll have a good time without the fun police.

I often leave Augie with AJ for a couple of hours at a time to get my nails done, hair appointments, shopping or dinner with friends. But, I have never actually been away from him for a full day and I have no idea how I’ll feel about it. Actually, that is a lie. I do know how I’ll feel about it… totally heartbroken. I will need to leave the house by about 7.15 am, which is exactly when he wakes up and then I won’t get home until about 6.15 pm, which is exactly when he goes to bed. We can’t really keep him awake any longer because he is just so over-tired and just done by that time of day.

I honestly don’t know how I’ll cope being gone all day and not getting cuddles and kisses and smiles. AJ said he can bring him into work to visit me at lunch times, but it’s across the other side of town and I don’t want them being stuck in city traffic when they could be out having fun. I mean, how am I going to leave this little face for 2 days a week? Sob.

Despite my little freak out, I do think it will be the absolute best thing for everyone and we’ll all settle into the new routine nicely. I’ll just need a few extra stiff drinks during the week to get me through.

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5 thoughts on “Back to the Grind

  1. Look at it as a way to have a bit of balance. After you’ve done it a few times and realised Augie is totally happy then you will feel better. But all the anxiety is normal. It’s a big change but you and he will be ok. He will still love you most. It’s hardwired into them!! xx

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  2. You will always be his favourite!!!!!!! Good luck with the transition – you have everyone’s best interests at hear & I think your reasoning is excellent!!!! xoxoxo

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  3. All the best for your return to work. Augie will be fine with AJ and like you said, it’ll give them a chance to bond more. I know it’ll probably be hard in the first few weeks as this will probably be the longest you’ve been away from him, yes?

    Hope all is well otherwise xo

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  4. Leaving Augie at home all day while you work will suck, you will feel like you are missing part of yourself but it will not take long to get into a routine, he will love having that time with his Dad & it will help to build the closeness between them even more. We all have do do what is best for our families, it is different for everyone and there is no perfect or right solution. When my two were younger their Dad looked after them during the day whilst I worked full time. They both went to daycare at a reasonably early age for a few hours so he could actually get some sleep and you know what – they turned out pretty friggin awesome, as did their friends who had stay at home Mums, those that were in full time daycare, those that went to aunts, grandparents etc whilst Mum worked, some full time, some part time – but they all are just fine, well adjusted, loving & loved kids (well – young adults now).

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